Has your partner has just proposed to you? It can be an amazing feeling but questions will soon turn towards the wedding itself. The pressure to ensure that this is the best day of your life can be overwhelming.

It can be tempting to send out your save-the-date invites very early to make it official. But there is no need to do this right away. Save the date etiquette can be hard to get right so be sure to read on to find out when to send save the dates.

Don’t Send Too Early

The worst thing you can do is to send out save the date invites too early. If the date is not confirmed you may have to change it at a later date. If the date is too far in the future then people might forget.

The best time to send a save the date is around 4-5 months before the wedding. If you send them out a year in advance then things could change. Some guests might have a new partner and want to invite a plus one.

You could even make new friends that you want to invite in that time and find yourself having to uninvite people. A lot can happen in one year.

Sending Them Online or Through the Mail

Another important decision to consider is whether to send save the dates online or through the mail.

If you send them through the mail then you can find yourself having to fork out for expensive invites and if you have friends that live all around the world you will have to pay to send the invites via international mail. They can get lost. In the era of the climate emergency, this is also not a responsible option. 

Some of your friends might also have changed addresses so you must contact them first to find out their addresses, making the physical save the date pointless.

Online save the dates like those offered by Sendo Online Invitations are a better option.

Make Sure the Venue Is Confirmed

Be sure to wait until the venue is confirmed and that you book and pay your deposit first before announcing the venue on your save the dates. If you don’t then you have to awkwardly send out letters informing your guests that they have changed their minds.

Or you could not include the venue on your save the dates but this is not typical as it means your guests have no idea where they will be going to attend your wedding. They can’t book accommodation or make travel plans if they don’t know where they are going. 

Save the Date Etiquette: Get it Right

If you want to get save the date etiquette right then be sure to make sure the venue is confirmed before you send them out so that your guests can make travel plans.

Don’t allow yourself to be caught up in the excitement of the moment and make rash decisions about who you invite.

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